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29th September 2021 | Written by

Parenting & Self-Care with Heather Chauvin

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Are you a people-pleaser struggling to find your true voice amidst the fear of being disliked? ⁠
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It's time to reclaim your authenticity! Here are some questions to ponder when faced with uncertainty in these situations:⁠
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🤔 Am I saying yes because I genuinely want to, or because I fear saying no will make others upset?⁠
🤔 Am I compromising my own values or needs to avoid conflict or disapproval?⁠
🤔 Do I prioritize my own well-being and happiness, or do I consistently put others' needs ahead of my own?⁠
🤔 Am I seeking external validation to feel worthy, or do I recognize my own inherent value and worth?⁠
🤔 Do I feel guilty or anxious when asserting my boundaries or expressing my true feelings?⁠
🤔 Am I afraid of being seen as selfish if I prioritize my own needs and desires?⁠
🤔 Do I feel drained or resentful after saying yes to something I didn't want to do?⁠
🤔 Am I avoiding expressing my true opinions or preferences to avoid rocking the boat?⁠
🤔 Do I feel a sense of relief or freedom when I honor my own needs and boundaries?⁠
🤔 Am I able to distinguish between healthy selflessness and harmful self-neglect?⁠
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Remember, it's okay to prioritize your own well-being and happiness.Embrace your authenticity, set boundaries, and cultivate relationships that honor and respect your true self. 💖

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Some of us feel guilty when we express what we want or need in a relationship — like we’re doing something wrong (or being selfish)⁠
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And, yes, some people will take advantage of that with purposeful intention. 😣⁠
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But, you know what? ⁠
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A lot of people don’t. ⁠
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A lot of people have no intent to take up more space than is fair in the relationship. ⁠
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They just aren’t sure what we actually want. ⁠
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…Because we don’t ever tell them. ⁠
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💛 These folks WANT to know what we want. ⁠
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💛 They’d LIKE to learn how make space for us. ⁠
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💛 They’d LOVE to see the relationship improve. ⁠
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But they just don’t know how.⁠
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Because we don’t tell them. ⁠
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(Are you noticing a theme here)?⁠
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Relationship therapists say this aaaall day: ⁠
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“Your partner isn’t a mind-reader. They can’t know what you don’t tell them.” ⁠
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Healthy boundaries show us how to say the things. ⁠
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Kindly, respectfully, and clearly. ⁠
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The healthy(ish) people who love us will be glad we’re finally doing so. ⁠
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Image & word by @boundariedbootcamp

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SURRENDER is the act of letting go when we're trying to control, or when denying a truth in our lives.⁠
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Perhaps there's a change in a relationship or other life circumstance. ⁠
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When we surrender, we accept something AS IS. For example, when we accept we have an addiction, we surrender to the powerlessness we ave over it. We then can become willing to acknowledge that it's beyond our control. ⁠
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The first step in healing is letting go. We then can heal by accepting th etruth of who and where we are. We can begin the REAL work. ⁠
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What calls for your surrender? If there is something you can't control in your life it may be time to let go and get support. ⁠
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🔹 Each of the 53 cards in my Codependent Perfectionist Oracle Deck focuses on a specific topic related to Codependency & Perfectionism and includes my insight on the topic as well as a direct reflection prompt so you can work on your healing any time, any day (and don't forget to flip them over for the incredible unique artwork by local artist @foxandcrowpaperco made specifically for each card!) ⁠
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✨ Purchase a deck online at the link in my bio or through this image!⁠

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“The biggest communication problem is we do not listen to understand. We listen to reply.” - Stephen R. Covey

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