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Transform
every relationship in your life.

Therapy for People Who Are Tired of Losing Themselves in Relationships

You look like you have it together on the outside.

But underneath, you may be exhausted from people-pleasing, overthinking, carrying everyone else’s emotions, or questioning your own needs.

Whether you’re struggling with a difficult relationship, healing from a narcissistic parent or partner, navigating anxiety, or trying to break lifelong patterns of perfectionism, therapy can help you reconnect with yourself and create healthier relationships.

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I’m Alana, a mental health counselor,
author and teacher, best known as

The Codependent Perfectionist.

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I’m a mother of two and a passionate life-long learner.

I’ve wanted to be a therapist since as far back as I can remember.  After years of intense clinical experience, combined with my own personal journey, I created The Codependent Perfectionist framework for you, my fellow codependent perfectionists. I’m here to help you create new patterns and heal old wounds to radically change your life.  

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Codependency

Do you feel responsible for everyone else's emotions? Do you struggle to set boundaries without guilt? Do your relationships feel disconnected or stuck? Do you keep repeating painful relationship patterns?

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Perfectionism

Do you constantly worry about disappointing people? Do you feel like what you do is never enough? You're feeling exhausted or burnt out? Do you overthink conversations for hours afterward?

Stop Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns

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One on One
Therapy

Build the Relationship With Yourself That You’ve Been Giving Everyone Else

Many of my clients arrive feeling emotionally exhausted from years of taking care of others while neglecting themselves. Together, we’ll explore the experiences that shaped your beliefs about love, worthiness, responsibility, and relationships. Through insight, practical tools, and compassionate accountability, you’ll learn how to:

  • Stop people-pleasing
  • Set healthy boundaries
  • Heal codependent patterns
  • Recover from narcissistic relationships
  • Reduce perfectionism and self-criticism
  • Trust yourself and your decisions
  • Create relationships that feel reciprocal and fulfilling

You deserve relationships where you don’t have to abandon yourself to be loved.

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Couples
Therapy

Stop Having the Same Fight Over and Over

Whether you’re struggling with communication, trust, intimacy, resentment, or feeling disconnected, couples therapy can help you understand the deeper patterns keeping you stuck.

Together we’ll help you:

  • Improve communication
  • Reduce conflict
  • Rebuild trust
  • Increase emotional intimacy
  • Break unhealthy relationship cycles
  • Create a stronger partnership

Relationships don’t improve because one partner changes. They improve when both people learn a new way of relating.

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The Codependent Perfectionist's
Oracle Cards

Daily practices to shed perfectionism & codependency and welcome peace

This brand new 54-card deck offers daily opportunities to abandon perfectionism and codependency and embrace renewed patterns, personal growth and joy in the present moment. With custom peace-filled illustrations and simple messages of deep wisdom, this oracle card collection will be the perfect companion to your morning or evening self-care ritual.

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Raising Empowered
Children:

The Codependent Perfectionist’s Guide to Parenting

For parents who struggle with codependency and perfectionism, the pressure to raise well- adjusted kids can feel like an avalanche. But parents can actually be — dare we say — free from the pressure. By understanding concepts like helicopter parenting (and a better method), healthy boundaries, and natural consequences, you can become a confident parent to happy and peaceful kids.

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THE CODEPENDENT PERFECTIONIST

Podcast

Our podcast series on the dynamics of codependency and perfectionism is the perfect tool to help transform your relationships with your partner, friends, children and self. With a mix of my training in psychology, my own therapeutic work, and stories of my work as a therapist, you’ll gain insight into how these issues play out in everyday life, and learn a peaceful alternative.

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