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every relationship in your life.

Develop intimate connections, heal your trauma, and experience more joy.

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I’m Alana, a mental health counselor,
author and teacher, best known as

The Codependent Perfectionist.

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I’m a mother of two and a passionate life-long learner.

I’ve wanted to be a therapist since as far back as I can remember.  After years of intense clinical experience, combined with my own personal journey, I created The Codependent Perfectionist framework for you, my fellow codependent perfectionists. I’m here to help you create new patterns and heal old wounds to radically change your life.  

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Codependency

is a dynamic in which we care too much about how others feel, the difficulties they experience, as well as how they feel and think about us.

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Perfectionism

is a person’s unrealistic expectations for oneself and others that can be seen in different areas of our life such as parenting, friendships, work, and body image.

Codependency and perfectionism are pervasive in our culture and love to live as a pair. As a former struggler of both, I created The Codependent Perfectionist framework to free you from these destructive patterns and create a life of peace and joy.

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Couples
Therapy

Stop Having the Same Fight Over and Over

Many couples come to therapy feeling disconnected, misunderstood, or trapped in recurring cycles of conflict.

You may find yourselves:
– Arguing about the same issues without resolution
– Struggling with trust after betrayal
– Feeling more like roommates than partners
– Walking on eggshells around one another
– Having difficulty communicating needs effectively
– Feeling lonely even within the relationship

In couples therapy, we’ll work together to understand the patterns beneath the conflict, improve communication, rebuild emotional connection, and create a healthier relationship where both partners feel seen, heard, and valued.
Healthy relationships aren’t built by finding the perfect partner—they’re built by learning how to show up differently together.

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One on One
Therapy

Looking for more of an individually-tailored approach?  My team and I offer a range of options, from individual and group therapy to couples and family counseling. Whatever your need, we have a solution to help you create the life you want.

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The Codependent Perfectionist's
Oracle Cards

Daily practices to shed perfectionism & codependency and welcome peace

This brand new 54-card deck offers daily opportunities to abandon perfectionism and codependency and embrace renewed patterns, personal growth and joy in the present moment. With custom peace-filled illustrations and simple messages of deep wisdom, this oracle card collection will be the perfect companion to your morning or evening self-care ritual.

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Raising Empowered
Children:

The Codependent Perfectionist’s Guide to Parenting

For parents who struggle with codependency and perfectionism, the pressure to raise well- adjusted kids can feel like an avalanche. But parents can actually be — dare we say — free from the pressure. By understanding concepts like helicopter parenting (and a better method), healthy boundaries, and natural consequences, you can become a confident parent to happy and peaceful kids.

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THE CODEPENDENT PERFECTIONIST

Podcast

Our podcast series on the dynamics of codependency and perfectionism is the perfect tool to help transform your relationships with your partner, friends, children and self. With a mix of my training in psychology, my own therapeutic work, and stories of my work as a therapist, you’ll gain insight into how these issues play out in everyday life, and learn a peaceful alternative.

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